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Speaker 1:
[00:00] As people age, it's normal to ask what more they could be doing to take care of their health. It's important to be proactive, especially when it comes to your brain health. Don't wait for something to feel off before taking action. Make your next checkup count. Ask your doctor about your risk factors for dementia and a cognitive assessment. Visit brainhealthmatters.com for more information and resources provided by Lilly.

Speaker 2:
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Speaker 1:
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Speaker 3:
[01:27] I can't believe I'm talking to you. Can you hear me?

Speaker 1:
[01:30] Thank you. Yes.

Speaker 3:
[01:32] Yeah. Yeah, I really can't believe I'm talking to you. I've listened to you since I was in elementary school.

Speaker 1:
[01:45] Oh, great.

Speaker 3:
[01:46] And I'm much older now and on the radio in my parents' kitchen. My mom always had you on. So I could go into so many different faceted things, to be honest, in my life. But I think the main thing is grief. I'm losing my mom. And that was the same week that I chopped off my daughter to college. So I'm trying to hold together by not being too great. But I think like grief and the anticipation of, like, I don't think we're ready to lose our parents. What do you think?

Speaker 1:
[02:45] What do you mean, we're never ready to lose our parents? We know from the time we're little that it's like everybody falls off the cliff in order.

Speaker 3:
[02:56] Yeah, it's interesting. We've had, like, several deaths in my family, aunts and uncles. We're all very close. And I've had cousins share with me that we weren't quite equipped, you know, to, like, handle losing our favorite person. I don't know. I mean, I think just grief management is a very- I don't have anywhere to go.

Speaker 1:
[03:29] How long ago did your mom pass and your kid go to college? What are we talking about?

Speaker 3:
[03:34] Um, September 20- 24.

Speaker 1:
[03:40] Two years ago? Almost. Are you married?

Speaker 3:
[03:47] No.

Speaker 1:
[03:49] And did he die or was there a divorce?

Speaker 3:
[03:54] Uh, never married him.

Speaker 1:
[03:56] Ah. So who, who, when you say favorite person in your life, I guess most people would have said something like a husband or you didn't lose your daughter. She just went off to school.

Speaker 3:
[04:10] My favorite people are my mom, my daughter, and my dad. My mom, my daughter, my dad. Those are my most favorite people.

Speaker 1:
[04:20] Okay. That's it. Do you have dear friends?

Speaker 3:
[04:28] Not someone that I would hold close or call in a crisis.

Speaker 1:
[04:33] Why is that? Why is that? As people age, it's normal to ask what more they could be doing to take care of their health. It's important to be proactive, especially when it comes to your brain health. Don't wait for something to feel off before taking action. Make your next checkup count. Ask your doctor about your risk factors for dementia and a cognitive assessment. Visit brainhealthmatters.com for more information and resources provided by Lilly.

Speaker 4:
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Speaker 6:
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Speaker 1:
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Speaker 3:
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Speaker 5:
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Speaker 3:
[06:58] It's really hard to share this, but I've just been a very... I've been a very independent person for all my life.

Speaker 1:
[07:13] No, you've been very dependent on your mother. No, you've been very dependent on your mother, and you gave up friendships to make her the most important.

Speaker 3:
[07:24] Okay, thank you.

Speaker 1:
[07:28] That wasn't entirely a good thing for you to do.

Speaker 3:
[07:33] Well, I mean, let's not disgrace my relationship with my mom, but yes. She was, you know, she was. Mom, to everyone actually in my community.

Speaker 1:
[08:04] And how do you now realize that that intensity, you sort of described with your mother, kept you from trusting and being vulnerable with other people?

Speaker 3:
[08:21] Well, I mean, actually, I followed your role of not being involved with other men at all. When my daughter was growing up.

Speaker 1:
[08:36] I'm talking about friends.

Speaker 3:
[08:40] Oh, just friends? Well, yeah, I've had close friends. I mean, yeah.

Speaker 1:
[08:53] Didn't you just say a few moments ago that no friend's close enough to talk to in depth? Didn't you just say something like that?

Speaker 3:
[09:11] Um, I want to be available for this call, but I mean, like, I really, I mean, like, I feel like I've been available as much as I can be available. And, you know, even to my sisters and brothers and nieces and nephews and, um, I do, yeah, I just, I do the stuff.

Speaker 1:
[09:39] What do you really think your problem is? I don't think it's grief. I don't think it's grief.

Speaker 3:
[09:47] What do you think it is? I would love someone to shed light on this. I would love it.

Speaker 1:
[09:55] Yeah, but you'll have to do that for me. If it isn't grief, what do you think it is? Just brainstorm.

Speaker 3:
[10:17] I don't want to be dependent on others.

Speaker 1:
[10:22] What does that mean? Why is it a bad thing?

Speaker 3:
[10:35] Because they can let you down. I don't want to be pigeonholed into this whole thing, though. I mean, like, I just don't even really quite know. I'm like, I'm open to being vulnerable, you know, but I just don't really. Um, you have to prove yourself to me. I guess that's the, you know, like you're like, if someone comes into my life, you're going to have to prove it.

Speaker 1:
[11:13] And what do you do? What do you do to have to reciprocally prove it to them?

Speaker 3:
[11:21] I always show up. I'm never not there.

Speaker 1:
[11:38] Okay. So if you still think this is grief, you might want to go to a grief group.

Speaker 3:
[11:49] I just don't really know about just talking about grief. I have a hard time like just hearing about everything, you know, because I like I take it in a lot. I'm very-

Speaker 1:
[12:03] Well, because people are different stages of different levels of grief and they share and you learn something.

Speaker 3:
[12:12] I just don't know if I want to take it all in. Okay. So anyway, take that. I take the recommendation. Just not sure if it's for me.

Speaker 1:
[12:24] Okay.

Speaker 3:
[12:29] I just don't want to take it in more.

Speaker 1:
[12:31] Sorry, I couldn't be more helpful.

Speaker 3:
[12:34] Okay.

Speaker 1:
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Speaker 4:
[13:08] Look, if you've got prescriptions, the Walmart app is your place to manage them. Transfer your scripts, refill them, and have them delivered straight to you. Migraines managed, allergies alleviated, dermatology, derma delivered. Ding dong. Is that your pizza? Nope. Walmart pharmacy delivery with a refill. Switch to Walmart and manage your prescriptions in the app. The Walmart you thought you knew is now new. Delivery not available for all prescriptions, exclusions apply.

Speaker 5:
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Speaker 1:
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Speaker 5:
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