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Speaker 1:
[00:00] Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad, an IHeartRadio and two-time People's Choice Award-winning podcast.
Speaker 2:
[00:10] Hello, everybody.
Speaker 3:
[00:13] We are Scrubbing In.
Speaker 2:
[00:17] Wow, what an exciting, fun-filled, exciting weekend.
Speaker 3:
[00:21] It's exciting so many times.
Speaker 2:
[00:24] Happy 420 to you.
Speaker 3:
[00:26] Thank you.
Speaker 2:
[00:27] You're welcome.
Speaker 3:
[00:27] That's so thoughtful.
Speaker 2:
[00:28] You're welcome.
Speaker 3:
[00:29] Did you bring me anything?
Speaker 2:
[00:30] I did not. I figured you had what you needed to celebrate.
Speaker 3:
[00:36] The other day, we were dabbling in some gardening, and I went to get, I was like, which one do you want? And I went, and we, so many, because we don't do it so often where it's like every night, you know? So whenever there's a sale at the place that we go get them, we just stock up, because we're like, why not? And then I was going through, and I'm like, man, if someone came and looked at this collection, they would be a little concerned.
Speaker 2:
[01:01] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[01:02] But have no fear. We just like to have options.
Speaker 2:
[01:05] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[01:05] So thanks so much.
Speaker 2:
[01:07] Enjoy if you partake, blaze it up.
Speaker 3:
[01:11] My dream is to do it with Tanya, but you won't do it with me.
Speaker 2:
[01:15] I will do it before your bachelorette party. Wow. Because I will, I'll do it for you at my bachelorette, but I feel like doing it then for the first time might be problematic for many reasons. So one time prior, I think would be.
Speaker 3:
[01:31] We got to find the one that you like, that, you know.
Speaker 2:
[01:34] Oh, God. This just sounds so bad.
Speaker 3:
[01:35] Oh, my gosh. That would be the greatest gift you ever gave me.
Speaker 2:
[01:38] My wedding gift to you. Happy wedding.
Speaker 4:
[01:41] Tanya shows up with a giant bong. Well, that's the thing.
Speaker 3:
[01:44] I don't smoke because I tried to smoke one time and I nearly coughed to death. So I have not, I don't smoke. I only will do the gummies. And when I say we do gummies, we do the smallest amount. It sounds, I bet people have this perception of us or me that they're like, Becca's just high all the time.
Speaker 2:
[02:04] I have that perception. I'm like, Becca's just getting high every night.
Speaker 3:
[02:09] No, not every night. Mostly it would be like if you want to just have a glass of wine and relax, that would be the equivalent because we never drink.
Speaker 2:
[02:18] I understand that feeling.
Speaker 3:
[02:20] I was at Coachella yesterday sober.
Speaker 2:
[02:23] Now, that is something to talk about.
Speaker 3:
[02:26] Yeah. Well, shall we get into the weekends?
Speaker 2:
[02:30] Yeah. There's so much to talk about.
Speaker 3:
[02:32] Where did you go?
Speaker 2:
[02:33] Yeah, that's right. Not only did I meet Love Island UK royalty.
Speaker 3:
[02:39] Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:
[02:40] I also made friends with 13-year-olds.
Speaker 4:
[02:43] Wow.
Speaker 2:
[02:43] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[02:44] I have so many questions about this.
Speaker 2:
[02:46] I went down to San Diego to visit my family. There's a lot to talk about, but I feel like we should start with Coachella because that was the last weekend of Coachella.
Speaker 4:
[02:56] Yeah.
Speaker 2:
[02:56] It's in the books for 2026, Finisto, Finasto, Goodbye.
Speaker 3:
[03:01] Pretty iconic. I think record-breaking, I imagine.
Speaker 2:
[03:05] Weekend 2 was way better than Weekend 1.
Speaker 3:
[03:07] I know. I felt bad for everyone who went to Weekend 1, because I felt like Weekend 2 is so much better.
Speaker 2:
[03:14] No, because if you think about it, they get to see it with fresh eyes. So it's brand new to Weekend 1, whereas Weekend 2, there's a little bit like it's not fresh, but it's better.
Speaker 3:
[03:24] You could have not watched it, and you could have gone in with fresh eyes.
Speaker 2:
[03:27] Oh, please not watched it.
Speaker 3:
[03:29] I didn't watch it.
Speaker 2:
[03:30] You didn't see anything from Weekend 1, there's just no way.
Speaker 3:
[03:32] I'm saying I saw clips, but not the show, the whole show itself. But I mean, it was-
Speaker 2:
[03:38] Spectacular.
Speaker 3:
[03:39] Objectively better.
Speaker 2:
[03:40] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[03:42] Like, I would say I almost had, I would say a hint of FOMO about missing Saturday night.
Speaker 2:
[03:49] Yes.
Speaker 3:
[03:50] And I can't say I felt any FOMO the week before.
Speaker 2:
[03:53] I had the FOMO like all the weekends, but like honestly, the fact that Hailey came out Weekend 2, made her even cooler.
Speaker 3:
[04:01] Oh yeah, I know. I thought we were talking about Hailey Bieber, but Hailey Kyoko, my Beyoncé, right.
Speaker 2:
[04:06] The fact that she came out Weekend 2, made her even cooler.
Speaker 3:
[04:08] I know. So she announced yesterday, so I can say this, but on the Girls Like Girls soundtrack, she has a song coming out with Gigi Perez. And so they just have a really special relationship and they really champion each other. And Gigi's team and family are some of the most amazing humans. And Hailey just goes so well with them and they work well together. And so Gigi had asked Hailey to come out and sing Girls Like Girls, cause Gigi's talked so much about how when she was younger, she never even thought she could be open about liking girls and Hailey's song, like it changed her life. And that's the reason she's able to sing about loving women too. And so she had Hailey come out and it was so fun and exciting. It's so weird because Hailey's such a multi-hyphenate and she does so much. And it's hard to keep up because there's one thing that she does would be something that I would need to celebrate for myself for weeks. And she does all those things in a week. She shot multiple music video stuff in a week and then she did a book fair on Saturday at USC and then she drives up and performs at Coachella. So anyways, she comes out on stage and I was so overwhelmed because I've seen her do it so many times, but I haven't seen her do that in a long time. And I know how much she loves being on stage and doing music and being in front of a crowd. And I was trying to film, but it was so hot. It was 1000 degrees.
Speaker 2:
[05:47] It was?
Speaker 3:
[05:48] Oh my God, it was so hot. And then my eyes, I didn't have my sunglasses on because I was trying to see it with clear vision.
Speaker 2:
[05:55] Right.
Speaker 3:
[05:56] So the sun was in my eyes. My eyes are watering because I got emotional, like getting to like, I don't know, I just overcome with emotion. And then my hands are shaking because I'm trying to film and hold it up and get the right angle. It was just an overwhelming experience. But did you get the shot? I got the shot.
Speaker 2:
[06:12] I haven't seen anything posted.
Speaker 3:
[06:13] I know I haven't posted.
Speaker 2:
[06:15] Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3:
[06:16] It was a long day. But first of all, let me say, this is the most luxurious Coachella experience that I've had and I've been with a brand before. Okay. So just so you know, I was not prepared for this, but well, let me go back. Eight years ago, I met Haley on April 4th. Two weeks later, she was performing at Coachella. Right. And I drove over for just to watch her performance. I was down bad. Drove out to the desert with Brittany. We ran across the field to get her to catch her set. And then she got in the car and we rode back together. And it was just so cool that eight years later we were going back together as an engaged couple. And it was so much fun. So anyways, we get there and they had gotten her a trailer. So we're in the artist section and we had a trailer.
Speaker 2:
[07:06] So we're in the AC.
Speaker 3:
[07:07] We have our bathroom, mirrors to freshen up.
Speaker 2:
[07:11] Oh, glorious.
Speaker 3:
[07:13] And so, then she goes...
Speaker 2:
[07:14] And did you drive right up to the...
Speaker 3:
[07:17] We parked in the artist parking.
Speaker 2:
[07:20] But still that's far from the trailers, no?
Speaker 3:
[07:22] It's not, I mean...
Speaker 2:
[07:23] It was a quick jaunt?
Speaker 3:
[07:24] It was a quick jaunt. I mean, still a walk, but yeah, it was a jaunt. And so then she goes and does sound check and makes sure everything sounds good. And then next thing I know she's going on stage and we're watching and then it ends and we get to go back to the trailer.
Speaker 2:
[07:41] Freshen up.
Speaker 3:
[07:42] Cool off. And then our friend Christian works for Red Bull and Red Bull has this.
Speaker 2:
[07:48] Gives you wings?
Speaker 3:
[07:49] Yeah, it does give you wings. But it also has this, they built this structure. It's not a tent or anything. It's called the Red Bull Mirage and it's facing one of the DJ sets. So during the sets, people can. What stage?
Speaker 2:
[08:02] Yeah, hard to say.
Speaker 3:
[08:03] I couldn't tell you.
Speaker 2:
[08:04] Do you lab?
Speaker 3:
[08:05] I think it's a new one. It feels like a newer one, one of the new stages. But the Red Bull Lounge has three stories and it's all windows. So if you're sitting in there, you're looking out at the stage in the field. So we go and on the third floor, there's a nobu. So we had a full nobu meal.
Speaker 2:
[08:26] You know what? You said you were going to nobu and I was like, who's going to tell her there isn't one in Palm Springs? Nothing like sushi in the middle of the desert.
Speaker 3:
[08:34] But let me tell you, it was fresh. So we were eating sushi while there was a DJ set playing, and then we left and we were like, what should we go do? We went and rode the Ferris wheel, which I've never thought to actually write it, just take a picture in front of it.
Speaker 2:
[08:50] The important things.
Speaker 3:
[08:51] We all rode the Ferris wheel and then afterwards, we're standing there taking pictures, Haley and I take a picture in front of the Ferris wheel, and then this guy comes up and he's just by himself, and he goes, oh, do you want me to get a picture of all of you together? And we're like, oh my gosh, this is so nice, but this man, he's sober, so he's, and he's just by himself, so we're like, what's the angle here?
Speaker 2:
[09:13] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[09:14] And clearly, Haley and I, we just kissed when he walked up, so we're obviously together, and then, yeah, so he takes a picture and he goes-
Speaker 2:
[09:23] Men on their own are scary. Oh, yeah. Like, let's just let that be known. Like, if you're a guy, find a guy friend to walk around with, because a solo man trotting around Coachella, it's giving scary.
Speaker 3:
[09:37] So, so he-
Speaker 2:
[09:39] Or bring a dog with you, like, either or.
Speaker 3:
[09:41] I don't think there's dogs allowed.
Speaker 2:
[09:42] Then bring a friend.
Speaker 3:
[09:44] So, he takes the photo and then he hands it back, and he's like, do y'all mind if I sing a song for y'all?
Speaker 2:
[09:51] Oh, no, no, no.
Speaker 3:
[09:51] A blessing over you. He's like, can I sing a blessing over you?
Speaker 2:
[09:54] Okay.
Speaker 3:
[09:55] So we're like, sure, you know, we're all nice, polite people. We're like, what a bolt. He just took a photo for us, of course, go ahead, sing. So he starts singing this Christian song called The Blessing. We're all clapping. He's singing a great voice. And he goes, can I pray for y'all? So no one wants to say no.
Speaker 2:
[10:13] Are you on candid camera? This is a show.
Speaker 3:
[10:15] So we're all looking at each other and we're like, okay, sure, so we all huddle in a circle. And he prays and it was lovely. Like it was a very lovely prayer. And then we're all like, thank you so much. And then he says, you know, this is your time to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. And one of the girls goes, well, thank you, but we're going to miss our set. So we walk away and we were like, you know, that was really bold and we admire his boldness. And personally, I used to be very much like, like, if I would have seen him as evangelical, I used to be, if I would have seen him doing this, I would have been like, wow, that is what we're supposed to be doing. But I had this realization after being out of that world of realizing that there is a way of doing this, right? The way he approached this was really nice. He was super kind and I didn't feel like judgmental at all. And he prayed and he's saying, and that was great. But if he would have just been like, I just wanted to let you know, guys know that Jesus loves you. I think that would have been more impactful. Because I think we walked away being like, was that the right? I don't know. There was just something that kind of made everyone feel off. And I'm like, that's the opposite of what the goal is.
Speaker 2:
[11:35] Right. I mean, it's like me walking up to strangers and saying like, hey, have you seen Love Island UK? Let me tell you the 15 reasons why you should watch it. You know what I mean?
Speaker 3:
[11:44] And then do you accept the oath to watch it every week, every day?
Speaker 2:
[11:49] I'm just trying to find a parallel of just something totally obscure that I believe in big time. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:
[11:55] But I was telling Haley, I was like, the whole thing is he had a message he wanted to get across, just like you have a message you want to get across. Your message is girls like girls and like people just let people love who they want to love. And his message is, I want to let people know that there's a God who loves them. And I think it could be simplified in a way that could be more impactful with less, you know?
Speaker 2:
[12:14] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[12:15] And then these women came up while we were praying that were obviously with him and they started praying along with him and being like, amen, amen. So I felt like they was kind of an ambush situation.
Speaker 2:
[12:24] He should have started out with the women next to him because it would have been less scary.
Speaker 3:
[12:28] So then we walk and this other group comes up and they have tin foil in their hand and they go, quick, what's a conspiracy theory you believe in?
Speaker 2:
[12:35] What is going on at Coachella these days? And why aren't we getting targeted? You are approachable, you're like smiley, like you'd be my number one target if I was doing that.
Speaker 3:
[12:46] Really?
Speaker 2:
[12:47] Yeah, 100%.
Speaker 3:
[12:48] They start putting these foil hats on you? On the girls who gave their favorite conspiracy theory. So then we walk over to a set and this girl comes up and goes, our friend Sammy goes, I wanna give you this gift and it's like a little figuring fox. We're like, what's happening? Why do we have a target on ourselves? What's going on? So anyways, it was great. We were all sober. It was fun, but I decided that I don't know that I'll go back to Coachella or a festival. No, unless Hayley's performing or Dr. Scholl's sponsors me. I'll go with Dr. Scholl's and I actually think that'd be a great brand collab because I use a lot of their products and I'd love to promote them.
Speaker 4:
[13:34] You'd love to be gelling?
Speaker 3:
[13:35] Yeah, I'd love to be gelling in the desert.
Speaker 2:
[13:38] Wow, what an experience.
Speaker 3:
[13:40] And then we drove home.
Speaker 2:
[13:41] What time?
Speaker 3:
[13:42] We left at 10. So we got home and like, yeah. But I honestly, I honestly feel like it was the best way to do it.
Speaker 2:
[13:56] I like, don't really enjoy people approaching me when I'm sober, like, please don't approach me with tinfoil hats and figurines.
Speaker 3:
[14:09] They were funny though, cause they would say, every time they'd put the foil on someone's head, they'd go, one of us, one of us. But they were laughing, so they weren't like, I didn't feel scared of them. They were laughing.
Speaker 2:
[14:23] They weren't sacrificing you or something.
Speaker 3:
[14:25] Right, right. But we were like, are we, have we entered cults? Are we being inducted into cults left and right? So anyways, that was really interesting. But yeah, it was so fun. Hayley is such a star. Like when she comes out, it's just so easy and natural. And like, you know, it comes with-
Speaker 2:
[14:44] She was born in the sauce. What? Born in the sauce.
Speaker 3:
[14:48] Born in the sauce?
Speaker 2:
[14:49] It's like a saying. Oh. Like, isn't it?
Speaker 5:
[14:52] It's a saying in a very specific restaurant that Ryan went to a long time ago. Oh.
Speaker 2:
[14:59] Which restaurant?
Speaker 5:
[15:00] I don't remember, but I'll look it up.
Speaker 2:
[15:01] Oh, my gosh.
Speaker 5:
[15:02] But it's something the chef would say to Ryan, that the food is born in the sauce.
Speaker 3:
[15:05] Oh, that's a really niche, a niche thing.
Speaker 2:
[15:08] I didn't realize it was so niche. Because I've been hearing it for so many years, I thought it was just like a common thing.
Speaker 4:
[15:12] Gardens of Toxco?
Speaker 5:
[15:14] There you go. Yeah.
Speaker 4:
[15:15] In West Hollywood?
Speaker 5:
[15:15] That's it, yep.
Speaker 4:
[15:16] I assumed that was something you picked up from the 13-year-olds you made friends with.
Speaker 2:
[15:19] Boy, I mean, too.
Speaker 3:
[15:20] I was literally just about to ask, which I wanted to get to, but I don't know that- do I have anything else to add to Coachella? Uh, I think that's it.
Speaker 2:
[15:28] Okay, great.
Speaker 3:
[15:30] Yeah, so.
Speaker 2:
[15:31] We'll get into a little bit about my weekend when we come back.
Speaker 3:
[15:53] We're back. That's right. She might be tired, but she's back.
Speaker 2:
[15:59] She's back. Okay, so my weekend started off on such a high because I was having a late lunch. It was like three or four o'clock in the afternoon on Friday. And lo and behold, I make eye contact with the one, the only, Helena Ford from Love Island UK. Wow. Yeah, thank you. Sitting right next to her, Jess, I don't know her last name, from also Love Island UK.
Speaker 3:
[16:29] You couldn't have looked up her last name for this podcast?
Speaker 2:
[16:34] Nobody knows their, everybody knows their first names. Like, hello, everybody knows Helena. Like nobody knows her full name.
Speaker 3:
[16:39] But you know her full name.
Speaker 2:
[16:40] Well, yeah. But what I'm saying is like, the Love Island lore is first names.
Speaker 3:
[16:46] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:
[16:47] Yeah. Like, there's only one Jess.
Speaker 3:
[16:49] OK, I'll take your word for it.
Speaker 2:
[16:52] They were both on the same season. No, they were on separate seasons, but then this recent All-Star season.
Speaker 3:
[16:59] I see.
Speaker 2:
[16:59] Yeah, the latest one that I've been like obsessed with. OK, so I make eye contact and I like beeline it over and I'm like, oh, my gosh, I love you guys so much. And they were like, hey, and I was like, what are you doing here? Because they're like UK, you know, and I'm like, we're in the USA. And they were like, we were at Coachella last weekend. We extended our trip so we could visit LA. And I was like, oh, my gosh, that is so cool. And then I just go into like, are you guys dating anyone?
Speaker 3:
[17:30] Oh, wow, we got right down to business. Because I small talk.
Speaker 2:
[17:34] I know. And then I realized, I was like, oh, wait, is it weird that I asked you that? And they were like, oh, no, we were on a dating show. And we were talking about the guy that Helena was with on her season. And then they were like petting Sunny and like, oh, you're not so cute.
Speaker 1:
[17:47] And I was like, ah.
Speaker 2:
[17:49] And then neither of them got up from, they were seated to eat lunch, you know? And so I took social cues and did not get a selfie with them.
Speaker 3:
[17:59] Wow.
Speaker 2:
[18:00] Although I wanted everything in me to take a selfie with them. Luckily for me, my friend Paulina was sitting down at our table and she took like stalker photos of us.
Speaker 3:
[18:10] I was wondering how those came about.
Speaker 2:
[18:12] So I have those to cherish forever. But here's the best part.
Speaker 3:
[18:16] They followed you.
Speaker 2:
[18:17] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[18:18] Oh.
Speaker 2:
[18:19] So I asked them, because I was going to ask them to come on the podcast. How long are you guys in LA? They were gone this morning. I'm like, oh shoot. So anyways, I sit back down, I have my lunch. They leave. Jess walks over to me to say, bye babe. I was like, wow, bye girl. Quickly go on Instagram, follow, follow, because I realized I didn't follow either one of them, which was embarrassing.
Speaker 3:
[18:42] Big fan, big fan.
Speaker 2:
[18:44] But guess what?
Speaker 3:
[18:47] What?
Speaker 2:
[18:48] They both messaged me and they both followed me on Instagram.
Speaker 3:
[18:53] Do you think they saw?
Speaker 2:
[18:54] Best friend.
Speaker 3:
[18:54] Do you think they saw that you were like a public figure?
Speaker 2:
[18:57] Don't care.
Speaker 3:
[18:58] Well, no, I mean, do you think that's what it was? They were like, oh, she's in the industry.
Speaker 2:
[19:03] They thought we were soul sisters.
Speaker 3:
[19:04] Oh, yeah, that's what I meant, actually.
Speaker 2:
[19:06] And that we bonded.
Speaker 3:
[19:06] Not think about your following.
Speaker 2:
[19:08] But do you want to know the best part? So I like, you know me, if I get an inch, I take a mile. And so-
Speaker 3:
[19:13] I'm very proud of your social cues, though. That's gross.
Speaker 4:
[19:16] Yeah, that's big progress.
Speaker 2:
[19:18] So they both messaged me saying, like, nice to meet you or whatever, and I wrote, lovely to meet you. And I responded to both of them individually. And then now I'm commenting on their stories. So they were at this one restaurant, and I was like, oh my gosh, my favorite place. And not responding to that.
Speaker 3:
[19:38] They said, girl, we were being nice, don't ruin this. Maltropies and Q's, yeah, don't ruin this for yourself.
Speaker 2:
[19:45] Next time I go jaunt over to the UK, you know I'll be hitting them up.
Speaker 3:
[19:50] Wow, very exciting.
Speaker 2:
[19:51] It was very exciting. Like, it was really a star sighting.
Speaker 3:
[19:55] Yes.
Speaker 2:
[19:56] Like, I was on a high. Like, I literally was on such a high from that. And then this group of young girls come and they sit down at the table next to us. And I like make a little bet with Polly and I'm like, how old do you think these girls, this table of girls? There's like eight of them, okay? She's like, I think they're probably like 16. I was like, I feel like they're probably like 14. So we like look over to them. How old are you guys? 13.
Speaker 3:
[20:18] They're by themselves?
Speaker 2:
[20:20] By themselves. There's like eight of them.
Speaker 3:
[20:22] Is this crazy?
Speaker 2:
[20:23] Apparently not because they're school. They just got out of school. And they walked over. And they walked into town to like grab food and their parents picked them up from like in town.
Speaker 3:
[20:31] I see, I see.
Speaker 2:
[20:32] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[20:32] Okay.
Speaker 2:
[20:33] Got all the low down. So then we start talking to them because I'm like, let me just pick their brains, you know, like be one with the 13 year olds.
Speaker 3:
[20:38] I'm just dying. Like the segment before this, Tanya said, I hate being approached when I'm sober. And here we are approaching two, two sobers.
Speaker 4:
[20:46] Just a minute to this restaurant.
Speaker 1:
[20:51] Making a remark.
Speaker 4:
[20:52] Police, could you come sooner, please?
Speaker 2:
[20:55] These 13 year olds were so excited to talk to us because first of all, they sat down and I was like asking them like, oh, like what artists do you guys listen to? And they were like Drake, Tate McCray, Olivia Rodrigo. And I was like, okay, cute. I was like, do you guys watch Love Island? They were like, yeah, we love Love Island. I was like, Helena and Jess were just here. They're like, where'd they go? Where'd they go? I was like, me and the 13 year olds, one in the same. And then some like some YouTubers, some sisters, do you guys know these like three sisters?
Speaker 3:
[21:21] Pittman's?
Speaker 2:
[21:22] No. If I heard the name, it would come back to me.
Speaker 3:
[21:25] Three sisters on YouTube?
Speaker 2:
[21:27] They're like YouTube stars. Anyways, they like saw them across the street and they start like running over to them. And I was like, who is that? They're like, oh, it's the blah, blah, blah sisters. They're so huge.
Speaker 4:
[21:36] They have curly hair?
Speaker 2:
[21:36] Kardashians? Yes.
Speaker 4:
[21:38] Caligari sisters?
Speaker 2:
[21:39] Caligari sisters. Big with the 13 year olds. Huge with the 13. So I'm like, I'm just using this as like research purposes at this point.
Speaker 3:
[21:48] Yeah.
Speaker 2:
[21:48] Asking them what kind of makeup brands they use. What do they use?
Speaker 3:
[21:53] I just, this is so funny. The whole thing is so funny to me because, well, tell me what makeup brands they use and then I'm going to explain why this is so funny.
Speaker 2:
[22:01] Tarte. They use Patrick Tau. Some dabbled with Tower 28.
Speaker 3:
[22:06] Okay.
Speaker 2:
[22:10] NARS, I think. Yeah. Nothing like. Shocking. Road, a little road.
Speaker 3:
[22:16] Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2:
[22:16] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[22:17] So, I love this because Tanya tells me she's in with the 13 year olds and she's figuring out what skincare they like. And I'm thinking to myself, we are so far from 13 that what skincare they're using is not going to be beneficial for us.
Speaker 2:
[22:33] I wasn't researching for my own purposes. I'm not going to start using their skincare.
Speaker 3:
[22:38] What was the research for, though?
Speaker 2:
[22:40] I just want to know, and I ask them, what social media apps are you guys looking at? What's your social media of choice? Are you guys having boyfriends?
Speaker 3:
[22:48] But are you wanting to learn for your stepson?
Speaker 2:
[22:50] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[22:51] Because he's that age.
Speaker 2:
[22:52] Yeah, I'm just wanting to get in on the, get the lowdown, you know? What are they talking about?
Speaker 3:
[22:57] Yeah.
Speaker 2:
[22:58] What are they doing?
Speaker 3:
[23:00] Yeah.
Speaker 2:
[23:00] Are they kissing boys?
Speaker 3:
[23:02] Are they?
Speaker 2:
[23:04] It was kind of 50-50.
Speaker 3:
[23:05] Yeah.
Speaker 2:
[23:06] Robbie was like, it's a little inappropriate.
Speaker 5:
[23:07] You asked, are you kissing boys?
Speaker 2:
[23:09] Well, to be fair, it was like Paulina, but no, it came up actually with Love Island, the kissing.
Speaker 5:
[23:16] The kiss on that show?
Speaker 2:
[23:17] Yeah.
Speaker 5:
[23:17] You guys kiss?
Speaker 4:
[23:18] Yeah.
Speaker 5:
[23:19] It's all weird.
Speaker 3:
[23:19] Dude, you've seen that they kiss on Love Island and are y'all kissing boys in challenges?
Speaker 2:
[23:24] The worst part is, is like, I got all of their Instagrams following all of them.
Speaker 4:
[23:29] This looks so bad on paper.
Speaker 3:
[23:31] It's so bad. I go, were anyone's moms with them? They're going to be like, who is this creepy woman following all of the?
Speaker 4:
[23:37] Do you want to pet my dog? I have candy in my car.
Speaker 2:
[23:41] I drive a white van. Do you want to come see it? No, but actually one of them was like, oh, my aunt follow, my aunts follow you. I was like, your aunts are cool.
Speaker 3:
[23:50] And that's what, and then I had this moment of thinking, cause when she said their aunts follow, I was thinking of older women as aunts. And I'm like, they're probably our age or younger.
Speaker 2:
[24:00] For sure.
Speaker 3:
[24:01] Like we are the aunts.
Speaker 2:
[24:02] That's right.
Speaker 3:
[24:04] And that was humbling, really.
Speaker 2:
[24:07] Yeah. Well, all in all, I learned a lot. And now I have just like...
Speaker 3:
[24:11] It's just a wealth of knowledge.
Speaker 2:
[24:12] It's just a wealth.
Speaker 3:
[24:14] But I guess what I'm trying to say...
Speaker 2:
[24:15] I'm nothing if not a student of life.
Speaker 3:
[24:16] And we know that about you. But what I'm trying to figure out is, it's so much knowledge you took in, but for what purpose?
Speaker 2:
[24:24] Life. Do you not think it's so important to know what the youth of our generation cares about?
Speaker 3:
[24:30] No, I don't. Really?
Speaker 2:
[24:32] What apps they're using?
Speaker 3:
[24:33] I don't have kids and I'm not, I don't, you know, that, like, I'm not, that's not just, I think, that's what I'm saying. I think you using it as research for your stepson being in the age range, that makes it all feel okay. But the rest of it, I'm just like 13 so young from where we are.
Speaker 2:
[24:50] So young, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:
[24:51] So I don't have a need of knowing what they're doing or up to.
Speaker 2:
[24:55] Well, that's a different-
Speaker 5:
[24:56] I think that's Gen Beta, by the way. Or Gen Alpha, sorry, that's Gen Alpha. Not even Gen Z anymore.
Speaker 2:
[25:01] I mean, the fact that they loved Love Island as much as I did really made me feel cool.
Speaker 3:
[25:07] I think you probably love a lot of things that the 13-year-old girls like, though.
Speaker 2:
[25:10] Yes, definitely.
Speaker 3:
[25:11] Girls are girls.
Speaker 2:
[25:12] Girls are girls.
Speaker 3:
[25:13] No matter the age. I was actually shocked to hear they love Love Island and in the sense of being able to allow to watch it. I really think-
Speaker 2:
[25:21] It's very wholesome at the end of the day. UK?
Speaker 3:
[25:25] Oh, the US one is not wholesome.
Speaker 2:
[25:27] No, it's- No, no, no.
Speaker 3:
[25:28] Well, I don't know about the UK, how much more wholesome it is, but I think I kind of grew up in a straight household with what I was allowed to watch.
Speaker 2:
[25:35] Oh, not me.
Speaker 3:
[25:36] Oh.
Speaker 4:
[25:40] I wanted to share, I had a celebrity sighting at a restaurant and I too had self-control and did not ask for a selfie. Who? Allison and I were in Vegas this weekend for WrestleMania and we went to lunch-
Speaker 5:
[25:53] This is a work trip though. This is a work trip. You're not a fan of wrestling, are you? Or maybe you are.
Speaker 4:
[25:57] I am now.
Speaker 5:
[25:58] Okay.
Speaker 2:
[25:59] Wait, can I make a guess?
Speaker 4:
[26:00] Yes.
Speaker 2:
[26:00] The Miz.
Speaker 4:
[26:02] No.
Speaker 2:
[26:02] That's all I know.
Speaker 4:
[26:03] The Miz.
Speaker 5:
[26:04] Is that a wrestler?
Speaker 4:
[26:05] So, Allison is like a massive Holly Madison fan.
Speaker 5:
[26:08] Massive.
Speaker 4:
[26:09] And we went to lunch with our friend Jensen, who is married to Daniel Fishel, is the three of us walking through a casino, going to lunch, talking about how much we love Holly Madison. And he's like, oh yeah, she's a friend of mine. Like she was going to be on the pod, but blah, blah, blah. We walk in the restaurant, she's sitting right there. And he just looks at me and goes, is that? And I'm like, yeah. And then he walks over, he's like, hey Holly. It says hi. And then she stands up and he introduces her to us. And then she looks at Alison and goes, you have the most beautiful skin. And Alison just starts like levitating towards the heavens. She was on Cloud 9 and wanted a photo so bad, but we were both like, she was eating lunch with people. So we weren't going to be like, can I get a photo?
Speaker 2:
[26:45] But it's the worst.
Speaker 4:
[26:46] Yeah, it's the worst when that happens.
Speaker 2:
[26:47] It's the worst.
Speaker 5:
[26:48] Can I just clarify for a certain percentage of our audience. Kelly Madison had a reality show.
Speaker 2:
[26:54] Yes, with Hugh Hefner.
Speaker 3:
[26:55] She was one of the playboys.
Speaker 5:
[26:56] And she was married to an NFL guy.
Speaker 4:
[26:59] She, yeah, I'm not sure about her post-Hef relationships, but she was on Girls Next Door.
Speaker 2:
[27:04] Yeah, but how is she in WrestleMania now?
Speaker 4:
[27:07] Oh, she was just in Vegas. She's just a Vegas person. And she's just always kind of bopping around. She and I have had some TikTok back and forth about some Vegas stuff, we'll just leave it at that. The task for the photo is very difficult, but we prevailed.
Speaker 2:
[27:24] Honestly, if they had stood up at lunch, I would have gone in with a selfie.
Speaker 4:
[27:29] Holly stood up.
Speaker 2:
[27:31] I would have been in. I would have been in for that. If they stood up, it would have been game over. But they remained seated. So crouching down next to them felt a little invasive.
Speaker 4:
[27:41] The food's in the shot. Can you hold the sandwich up too?
Speaker 3:
[27:45] They're like mid-chew.
Speaker 2:
[27:46] The fork's up.
Speaker 3:
[27:49] Yeah, it does take... Because once you have the bravery or the introduction, it almost feels like that was the hard part. But asking for a photo is just... It takes it to the next level of needing the bravery or the willpower to not do it.
Speaker 2:
[28:06] Guys, when I tell you, I don't really get... I got flustered. I had a long-sleeve shirt on and sweat and it was like 100 degrees out. And so I was like sweating. I was like... There was like a lot happening.
Speaker 3:
[28:18] You had like lip sweat while you were trying.
Speaker 2:
[28:20] I definitely had lip sweat. And I had just gotten my eyebrows laminated. And so I had like no makeup on and my eyebrows were like, bing!
Speaker 3:
[28:28] I know those eyes were wide with excitement.
Speaker 2:
[28:31] Oh, they were wide.
Speaker 3:
[28:32] Wait, we didn't even talk about Justin Bieber bringing Billie Eilish up. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:
[28:37] We just were at your Coachella experience. There was so much other Coachella to experience.
Speaker 3:
[28:42] There was. It was the highlight. But the reason why I had FOMO was because it just I felt like he was having the time of his life. He seemed so relaxed and like he was loving it.
Speaker 2:
[28:53] So everybody online is basically saying like weekend one was his reset and weekend two was for the fans.
Speaker 3:
[29:01] Wow.
Speaker 2:
[29:02] But did you see the video of the one fan like grabbing his crotch? Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[29:06] I don't think it wasn't appropriate, but I also was watching her and she's not looking at.
Speaker 2:
[29:10] She doesn't know where she's grabbing.
Speaker 3:
[29:11] I think she was just trying to touch him.
Speaker 2:
[29:13] Oh, okay.
Speaker 3:
[29:14] And that's why I think he stood there still, but just covered himself to make sure.
Speaker 4:
[29:19] It's pretty clear what part of the body she's reaching for.
Speaker 3:
[29:21] Yeah, but I think she was like holding her phone up, trying to like.
Speaker 2:
[29:24] Okay, that makes me feel better because I was like, this is so inappropriate, especially because he's married.
Speaker 3:
[29:28] That's really embarrassing for her if she did that. I think she was just trying to reach to touch him and was trying to get her phone out.
Speaker 2:
[29:34] Justin probably felt that because he didn't react. He just kind of like put his arm down to kind of shoo it away. But he didn't like move away or like jolt.
Speaker 3:
[29:42] Yeah, I think he knew she's frantically trying to.
Speaker 2:
[29:46] Do you think they told that section of fans like he's going to come up to you during his Coachella performance? So be behaved. Like there's no way he just randomly went in there like that.
Speaker 3:
[29:57] I don't think the fans knew.
Speaker 2:
[29:59] You don't. Are you sure?
Speaker 3:
[30:02] I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 2:
[30:03] I'm not on the Coachella staff. There's no way Justin Bieber had his back to the crowd with all these people behind him and they were not pre-vetted by security. I just can't imagine.
Speaker 3:
[30:14] Pre-vetted as in?
Speaker 2:
[30:15] Like security went over and was like, Justin's going to come over here during his performance.
Speaker 3:
[30:22] I've never been told if an artist is walking through the crowd or anything. It just happens and you're frantically trying to be ready for it.
Speaker 2:
[30:29] I've seen somebody that was out there and touched him to verify for me because I really can't imagine that that was just willy nilly.
Speaker 3:
[30:37] Yeah, I feel like it was willy nilly. But a lot of people were saying that Haley was supposed to be the one less lonely girl, but she pushed Billy up there. But I don't know if that's true. But either way, I love both stories. Whether it was always planned to be Billy or if it was supposed to be Haley.
Speaker 2:
[30:52] I like this one better, I think.
Speaker 3:
[30:53] That if it was supposed to be Haley and she pushed Billy up.
Speaker 2:
[30:55] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[30:55] Speaking of Bieber, you posted a live with Justin Bieber, where he's finding people to join him.
Speaker 2:
[31:03] Yes.
Speaker 3:
[31:04] Then your face pops up.
Speaker 2:
[31:05] Yes.
Speaker 3:
[31:06] Was it real?
Speaker 2:
[31:07] Becca messages me on Saturday and goes, the Bieber video, dot, dot, dot. Is that AI? I'm like, the fact that you think that I could actually even make that an AI. I thought Robbie did it.
Speaker 3:
[31:16] I did not think you did it. I thought Robbie created that.
Speaker 2:
[31:18] The fact that Becca thinks I can make this AI is really just a compliment. Because I wouldn't know left from right how to make that from into AI.
Speaker 3:
[31:27] Well, respectfully, I thought Robbie did it.
Speaker 2:
[31:29] Respectfully, that was me and it was real life and it was 2020. So it was quarantine. I can't remember why he was doing it, but he was doing Instagram Lives with a bunch of different radio jocks. Because we were in quarantine. So I was like, remember everybody was doing those Instagram Lives. So somebody turned my Instagram Live into a meme that said on the top, it was like a quarantine Friday with Justin Bieber or something like that. So I took it and I thought it'd be funny because the first weekend of Coachella, he was trying to like YouTube stuff. So it felt very like the moment. So I took it and I chopped it up and made it my little thing.
Speaker 3:
[32:07] Wait, so did you really talk to him?
Speaker 2:
[32:09] Yes, I was like real. That was like super, super legit. Somebody else screen recorded it and so I saved that. There was even like a part where Haley's in the background. She's like, I love Tanya.
Speaker 3:
[32:20] Yeah, because you know them, like you met them and stuff. So that is so crazy.
Speaker 2:
[32:24] I know. And the fact that I found it too.
Speaker 3:
[32:27] Yeah, that's impressive.
Speaker 2:
[32:29] Proud of you. Thank you.
Speaker 3:
[32:30] So it was a real thing.
Speaker 2:
[32:31] It was a real thing, but it was from, I believe it was, I don't know the month, but it was definitely 2020.
Speaker 3:
[32:36] And you were doing like radio stuff.
Speaker 2:
[32:38] It was, yeah, it was like a radio thing.
Speaker 3:
[32:39] What song was he promoting or what album?
Speaker 2:
[32:41] I don't remember what he was doing or why he was doing it. But it was so funny because it took him a long time to like find me because I was the one doing it. I was doing it wrong. Like he kept saying like, looking for Tanya Rad, Tanya Rad, just like request me so I can accept you. And meanwhile, I'm on the other end, like texting the label, like, why can't he see me? I'm in there. And they're like, you have to request. And I was like, oh.
Speaker 3:
[33:03] No one had a harder time with technology during COVID than Tanya.
Speaker 2:
[33:07] And I was his first one. So I was like, he's probably like, oh hell, like these are going to be.
Speaker 3:
[33:11] I'm not doing this.
Speaker 2:
[33:12] I'm not. This is the first and last. Tanya Rad, and then we're out. No, actually I remember because my friend Simon, who works at Hits One, also had like a picture from like her live with him too.
Speaker 3:
[33:22] Remember when you were, we did those Scrubbing In live on during COVID on the computer and you were in the chat and you were like, can you hear me?
Speaker 2:
[33:30] It was so miserable. I still have like flashbacks. So like, I had like PTSD with like computers. Yeah, I think people can hear me when I'm on mute. Like it's just bad.
Speaker 3:
[33:41] Well, thanks for clearing there. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:
[33:42] So it wasn't AI.
Speaker 3:
[33:44] Yeah, very timely.
Speaker 2:
[33:45] I know. I wish I had like the full video of like what we chatted about, but that was like where somewhere in the ether.
Speaker 3:
[33:52] Yeah, in the ether.
Speaker 2:
[33:53] If anybody works on Instagram.
Speaker 5:
[33:56] Here's the question.
Speaker 2:
[33:57] What?
Speaker 5:
[33:58] This year clearly weekend two is superior to weekend one.
Speaker 3:
[34:01] Yeah.
Speaker 5:
[34:01] Next year, and by the way, tickets go on sale on weekend Friday. Next year, if you could only go to one weekend, which do you choose in advance knowing that this year weekend two was the better weekend?
Speaker 3:
[34:11] Weekend, I just go to weekend two in general because it's unless I went with Dr. Scholes and they were going weekend one or weekend, I would not have a choice, but I think I would go weekend two. I think it's a little less chill, I mean a little more chill, and I think that everyone's had their, they've done the run through almost weekend one. I don't know.
Speaker 5:
[34:36] But there's fewer, well actually this year there are more surprises, but most years seem like there's fewer surprises weekend two because it's a repeat of weekend one. So then you're not there for the big moments potentially.
Speaker 3:
[34:46] So I say this as someone who is in the influencer world and considers myself an influencer, but I think the week one has kind of become so influencer heavy that I almost think the celebrities and the artists are like, I'm going to make weekend two for the fans since the weekend one is this like, like influencer, what do they call it? Influencer Superbowl.
Speaker 2:
[35:08] Yeah. But I also think still weekend one, you're seeing things with virgin eyes. So there is that element of it.
Speaker 3:
[35:15] If you're just a fan and you're like, I want to be the first to see it without the influence, like without any of the outside stuff, then I think weekend one is really special.
Speaker 2:
[35:23] Yeah, like watching Serena Carpenter go up in that thing with the spout fountains going all over her.
Speaker 3:
[35:27] Do you think she'd feel like drenched on this weekend?
Speaker 2:
[35:29] But like seeing that for the first time would have like literally made me pass out. If I saw it the second time, I'd be like, okay.
Speaker 3:
[35:37] Yeah. You just would have been there, done that.
Speaker 2:
[35:41] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[35:42] Yeah, I mean, I think there's advantages. I just personally, because the crowd seems to be a little more chill, I would choose weekend two because I'm getting on up there now.
Speaker 2:
[35:53] The crowd did not, online it did not look chiller.
Speaker 3:
[35:55] It's not chill. It's a festival year.
Speaker 2:
[35:57] Yeah, it looked like chaotic both weekends.
Speaker 3:
[36:00] It is a weird thing. And I don't know, like I said, if I just haven't been in so long, but watching people and crowds moving in one direction to walk to another stage is a really weird sight. And it feels scary almost because there, there's like this mass going in one direction. And this one girl, we were trying to figure out this huge crowd was going to the stage. I was like, who are you? Where are you? Where's everyone going? And he goes, I don't know.
Speaker 2:
[36:30] I'm just following the crowd.
Speaker 3:
[36:31] Oh, okay.
Speaker 2:
[36:33] I will say, when I went, when I was there for Beychella and I went into the crowd, I was solo because I was there with our boss, Beata, and it was just me and her. And so she's like, I'm going to watch from out here. And I was like, I need to be like in there. So I went in, I was by myself, and it was euphoric, like everybody's shit, but I was drunk.
Speaker 3:
[36:52] Yeah, I think being sober in that type of crowd alone would cause some anxiety for me.
Speaker 2:
[37:01] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[37:02] But I think it's, those festivals are for people who just love music and they want to go from stage to stage and see the artists they love. And even if they're sitting in the back on the grass, which I actually think is more enjoyable.
Speaker 2:
[37:14] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[37:16] And getting to do that all in one weekend is a dream for people.
Speaker 2:
[37:19] Yeah.
Speaker 4:
[37:20] You didn't have an issue with the crowd, like being in that big Beyonce crowd?
Speaker 2:
[37:24] I loved being in the big Beyonce crowd.
Speaker 4:
[37:26] It's like I like punk music and I've been in many mosh pits in my life and I have no problem being in a crowd like that. But when I went to stage coach, I went to see Post Malone and I get in the crowd, I'm like, oh, this will be fine. I got so like, because everyone starts pushing in on each other. I started getting claustrophobic for the first time ever.
Speaker 2:
[37:46] I would never go like in, in. I was not like in by any barricade by any means. I was still like very far removed from the stage. I have like a lot of room to like move around. I was not sardined in. That would stress me out.
Speaker 4:
[37:59] It's crazy how dense that crowd can get in certain people.
Speaker 3:
[38:04] Now that you've had some FOMO, would you go back to Coachella? 100%. 100%?
Speaker 2:
[38:09] 100%.
Speaker 3:
[38:09] Who would have to, who would be performing to get you to go?
Speaker 2:
[38:12] It's funny you ask that because I was thinking this, because the tickets go on sale next week and for next year, and I was like, how do they top this year? They really nailed it this year, I feel. How do you top this? Rihanna? That would top it.
Speaker 3:
[38:28] Rihanna would be iconic.
Speaker 4:
[38:30] No disrespect, but you can't book Olivia Dean for next year because she may not be the big, you know what I mean? I was thinking, who do you book?
Speaker 3:
[38:37] I was shocked Olivia Dean didn't perform this. Not a headliner, but have a big stage.
Speaker 2:
[38:42] A little stint?
Speaker 3:
[38:43] One of the main, like on the main stage is not the headliner. I was just surprised.
Speaker 2:
[38:47] Mark, can you do a quick little search for me?
Speaker 3:
[38:49] Like Noah Cahn?
Speaker 5:
[38:50] It'd be my pleasure.
Speaker 2:
[38:51] I think Olivia Dean was there last year.
Speaker 5:
[38:53] Oh, is that right?
Speaker 2:
[38:54] I think.
Speaker 3:
[38:54] Yeah, let me see. We're gonna do a little search, searchy poo. Taylor Swift, I don't know if Taylor Swift will do it. It's the only thing she hasn't done.
Speaker 2:
[39:02] Why would she do a festival? Like, do you know what I mean? Unless it was, she headlined all three nights.
Speaker 5:
[39:09] Olivia Dean performed at the 2024 Coachella.
Speaker 3:
[39:12] Okay. Okay. Olivia Rodrigo, I could see her headlining next year.
Speaker 5:
[39:17] Yeah, that's a big one.
Speaker 2:
[39:19] Yes.
Speaker 3:
[39:19] She's gonna have a massive year this year.
Speaker 5:
[39:21] It's awesome.
Speaker 3:
[39:22] I love it. You don't love it.
Speaker 2:
[39:23] No, I do. But I still feel like, I feel like having the Sabrina, the Carol G and then the Bieber in the middle, like somebody that's been gone for a long time. And then, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3:
[39:35] Yeah, that's what I'm saying. What if they did Olivia Rodrigo, Rihanna?
Speaker 2:
[39:39] Rihanna. It needs to be Rihanna.
Speaker 3:
[39:42] That's the only one that would bring you back?
Speaker 2:
[39:43] I think so. Well, no, I mean, I'm probably like, let's be real.
Speaker 3:
[39:47] What?
Speaker 2:
[39:48] If I'm out of my Tender Tanya phase, I'm going back.
Speaker 3:
[39:51] No matter who it is?
Speaker 2:
[39:52] Yeah, I loved Coachella. Oh, yeah.
Speaker 3:
[39:55] OK. Well, just stay tuned for Tender Tanya.
Speaker 2:
[39:58] Yeah, I just can't go tenderly because that's just not a thing.
Speaker 3:
[40:03] No, no, no, you can't be tender at Coachella.
Speaker 2:
[40:05] I can't be breathing in all that smoke.
Speaker 3:
[40:07] No, I feel like I'm coughing up dust.
Speaker 2:
[40:09] That's what I meant, dust. I can't be breathing in all that dust. I've got air purifiers in every room in my house right now.
Speaker 3:
[40:19] I need those, honestly. I have two, but I need the whole house going. There is a bare minimum checklist that this woman came out with for men that she dates, and it's gone viral. So I'd like to touch on that when we come back. We're back. So this woman made a bare minimum requirement for any man that she dates. And I'm going to read some of them, and we're going to see where we stand on this.
Speaker 2:
[41:07] OK.
Speaker 3:
[41:07] I don't know, do you feel this way when people talk about dating, in general, dating, but specifically men, and they'll say something that's just the basic bare minimum? Like, he's nice to waiters or something, and you're like, dang. Like, the bar is on the floor for people out there. Do you ever feel that with people that are single?
Speaker 2:
[41:30] No, because I feel like I was there. Like, does he have a pulse? Does he want to go out with me?
Speaker 3:
[41:38] Oh my gosh. OK, please remind me about the Hey Girl text that we have to get to by the end of this episode. Someone marked that. OK, so here's this woman's list.
Speaker 2:
[41:48] Please don't remind her of that. Thank you.
Speaker 3:
[41:50] Here's this woman's list. Loves me more. Which a lot of people say they only, if they're dating someone, it's specifically men and women that the man should love the woman more.
Speaker 2:
[42:03] Yeah.
Speaker 5:
[42:05] I've heard this as well. Patti brought this back in the day in the morning show. A relationship is more successful if the man loves the woman a little bit more.
Speaker 3:
[42:11] I think there's actual studies on this.
Speaker 2:
[42:14] I think it's true.
Speaker 3:
[42:16] You feel like Robbie loves you more?
Speaker 2:
[42:18] I think we go in like waves. I think we go in waves. I think there's periods where he loves me more, and I think there's periods where I love him more.
Speaker 3:
[42:23] Okay. What about you?
Speaker 2:
[42:24] I think his that way, mine.
Speaker 3:
[42:26] Okay. Yeah.
Speaker 4:
[42:29] Yeah. I mean, I think we love each other equally, but I think I'm maybe more obsessed with Allison than she is with me, which is the right way it should be.
Speaker 5:
[42:37] Yeah. Just what Easton said. Same thing.
Speaker 3:
[42:40] 200K or more salary is her bare minimum. This one to me, the money thing is interesting because I think it's totally fair and fine to have an expectation or like being realistic about what you expect in a financial sense. I think these are like conversations that are very uncomfortable, but need to be had just so someone's not disappointed down the road, you know? I guess this just depends where you live.
Speaker 2:
[43:09] I think it's all relative to where you live.
Speaker 5:
[43:13] I think that it's silly to do that, though, isn't it? I think one of the cool things that couples always have, and old people always say this, is when we were first together, we didn't have the proverbial pot to piss in. And that was me and my wife. We had nothing. I was making no money. And that's how we started. And I think that's a beautiful thing. You can grow together.
Speaker 3:
[43:30] Yeah, being able to grow together. I personally don't think it's a deal breaker. I just think if the person has motivation and they want to grow together, I think that's more of what you should be looking for as opposed to a number of salary.
Speaker 2:
[43:44] Yeah, but I mean, if that's what she wants, that's what she wants.
Speaker 3:
[43:46] This is just her list.
Speaker 2:
[43:47] I feel like for me, I never really had a number of something I wanted somebody to make, but I definitely wanted somebody that had a career. I didn't want someone that just either worked for their family and inherited a bunch. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3:
[44:04] Okay. Generous.
Speaker 2:
[44:07] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[44:07] Just period. Generous. I think that's important for me personally. Whether it's generous with gift giving, money, time, energy, kindness, whatever, just a generous person likes the finer things. I think this girl cares. She has a certain lifestyle she wants to live, which I respect her putting it out there. She knows what she wants. Emotionally intelligent. This is a big one that I think a lot of people skip over. Personally, chivalrous.
Speaker 2:
[44:36] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[44:37] Fun.
Speaker 2:
[44:38] But you know what's interesting about chivalry these days?
Speaker 3:
[44:41] Tell me.
Speaker 2:
[44:43] It's a fine line.
Speaker 3:
[44:45] Of what?
Speaker 2:
[44:46] Because like, chivalry is nice. I like chivalry. But like, if I was dating someone and I got up to the bathroom and they stood up with me, I'd be like, sit down. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3:
[44:58] I don't think that's what she's looking for.
Speaker 2:
[45:00] But do you know what I mean? Like, you'd be weirded out too. Like, I'd be like, sit your ass down. I'm just going to the bathroom. But then they're like trying to be chivalrous.
Speaker 3:
[45:07] I've never seen someone do that.
Speaker 2:
[45:08] I've never. You haven't.
Speaker 5:
[45:09] That's very old school.
Speaker 2:
[45:10] Yeah. I went on a date with a guy like that. And it was like nice. Like at first he like opened my car door and like opened the doors, which again, chivalry nice. And then the guy stood up when I went to the bathroom and I was like, goodbye. So it's a fine line.
Speaker 5:
[45:23] That was a deal breaker.
Speaker 2:
[45:24] I feel bad for that guy because I sent him packing, but it like really weirded me out. And then, yeah.
Speaker 3:
[45:30] I randomly just recently, Haley went to get in the car door and I went and opened it before her. And I was like, this is so, why are, this is dumb. Like I don't.
Speaker 2:
[45:39] I find it weird when Robbie does it for me. Like when we have date nights and like open my door and I'm like, okay.
Speaker 3:
[45:44] I was like, that was so much work for what? Like I can open the car. I can open the door for you, but I don't need, no one needs it up for me. And I don't think that she needs me to do it for her.
Speaker 4:
[45:57] I do it every time, every single time.
Speaker 3:
[45:59] It's a lot of work.
Speaker 4:
[46:01] I love it. I love the opportunity to do it.
Speaker 3:
[46:03] And that's what matters, Easton. I'm sure Allison loves it too. My friends and family love him. It's an ideal situation, but sometimes you can't choose who likes the person that you love.
Speaker 4:
[46:17] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[46:19] Timely, which I'm guessing is on time.
Speaker 2:
[46:22] Prompt.
Speaker 3:
[46:22] Yeah, prompt, which I would not be good fit for this person.
Speaker 2:
[46:25] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[46:26] Confident, sexually disciplined. What do you think? Oh, do you think that means, like, not watching porn and stuff?
Speaker 2:
[46:33] Oh, yeah. Interesting. I've never heard that term.
Speaker 3:
[46:35] Not a mama's boy.
Speaker 2:
[46:36] Oh, interesting.
Speaker 3:
[46:40] Big one. Tries hard.
Speaker 2:
[46:46] She wants someone that tries hard? I feel like that's, like, Ick.
Speaker 4:
[46:49] What?
Speaker 3:
[46:50] This is the last one. Wait, what?
Speaker 4:
[46:52] Tries hard is Ick?
Speaker 5:
[46:53] Yeah. You want effort. Don't you want effort?
Speaker 3:
[46:55] I think she means effort.
Speaker 2:
[46:56] Not like try hard.
Speaker 3:
[46:57] Like, try to be cool. Yeah, not try hard. Yeah, but tries hard. Not try hard, but tries hard.
Speaker 2:
[47:01] It's where you put the emphasis.
Speaker 3:
[47:02] Right, right.
Speaker 2:
[47:03] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[47:04] Just puts in effort. This is the last one. Wants to protect me, even if we're divorced, like a real class, honorable person.
Speaker 2:
[47:12] Okay. Okay. Feels like you're setting yourself up for failure with that one.
Speaker 3:
[47:16] Some of the comments are, not even Superman meets these criteria, dude. She's already planning for the divorce.
Speaker 2:
[47:23] Yikes. This girl's not giving lifetime love.
Speaker 3:
[47:28] Someone said, according to the female delusion calculator, the probability a man meets her criteria in the USA is 32.32 percent. Worldwide, it's much, much lower. Good luck.
Speaker 2:
[47:39] Do you want to say something so embarrassing that I did on Friday night?
Speaker 3:
[47:42] Is it the hey girl text?
Speaker 2:
[47:43] No. So I'm out of triple date. So it's three couples.
Speaker 3:
[47:47] Thank you for explaining it.
Speaker 2:
[47:49] So one, two, three, four, five, six of us. And this guy walks over to our table and he walks over to one of Robbie's friends and he's on the end of the table. So he walks over to Robbie's friend and they're conversing. So they're at the end of the table conversing. I do this because I think this is a guy that I know very well. I put my head out like this and I'm like, excuse me, excuse me. And then he looks at me and he's like, hey, I'm like, hey. And then I'm like, you're not who I thought you were. And it was so awkward. I literally was like, cause he was playing into it too. And I was like, I've never met you. I thought you were my friend. And then I was so awkward. So this is just a PSA to anybody. If you think you spot somebody.
Speaker 3:
[48:35] Really take a good look.
Speaker 5:
[48:36] Really take a good look. That is such a Tanya thing to do.
Speaker 2:
[48:39] It was so embarrassing.
Speaker 3:
[48:41] It just reminded me of your last week's conversation, or not being able to converse with the guy in the kitchen while you were microwaving your food.
Speaker 2:
[48:47] I lost all social skills, like completely. And I didn't know how to come back from it. And now it's gonna be like our joke every time I see this guy. And you're like, hey, long time no see.
Speaker 3:
[48:54] And they usually just say, excuse me.
Speaker 2:
[48:57] And I told Robbie who I thought it was. And he was like, oh yeah, I kind of see the resemblance.
Speaker 3:
[49:01] Was Robbie confused why you were doing that? Why is she doing this?
Speaker 2:
[49:04] And I was like, who the f**k is this guy? How do you know I'm like? He was like, how do you know? Excuse me.
Speaker 3:
[49:13] Was it really like that?
Speaker 2:
[49:14] Yes.
Speaker 5:
[49:15] Yes.
Speaker 3:
[49:16] In the restaurant?
Speaker 5:
[49:16] So you were drunk?
Speaker 2:
[49:18] No, not one sip of anything.
Speaker 5:
[49:19] And that's how you act when you're sober?
Speaker 2:
[49:21] Yeah.
Speaker 3:
[49:21] In the restaurant?
Speaker 2:
[49:22] Yes. That loud?
Speaker 5:
[49:24] Yes.
Speaker 2:
[49:24] It was a loud restaurant, so it wasn't like inappropriate.
Speaker 3:
[49:27] Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay.
Speaker 2:
[49:28] It wasn't like out of left field.
Speaker 3:
[49:31] Right, right, right.
Speaker 2:
[49:32] It was so embarrassing. I was like, oh my gosh. And then I felt like I had to justify that my friend is like really hot. You know what I mean? Like, I was like, oh my gosh, my friend is like so good looking. I'm like trying to find a photo of him online. Why did you have to do that? I don't know. And so I like, I find all I have is his Instagram photo and he's wearing like a hat. That's like the hat's like that down like this, like covering half of his face. And that's the only, because he's private. And that's the only photo he has on his page. So I'm like showing that photo to everybody. I'm like, does he kind of look like this guy? Like I felt like I had to justify the...
Speaker 3:
[50:03] I'm stressed.
Speaker 2:
[50:04] It was so bad.
Speaker 5:
[50:06] Why would you keep digging the hole deeper and deeper?
Speaker 2:
[50:08] Because I made such a like stink of it.
Speaker 3:
[50:10] Yeah, the excuse me. She had to follow up with something.
Speaker 2:
[50:13] I had to follow up with like, and then I had to tell everybody the story of like how I know the guy that I thought it was. And like I had a big crush on him in college and like...
Speaker 5:
[50:22] Was the guy there for all this stuff? Was the guy standing there? Yeah, sure.
Speaker 3:
[50:26] You know what I'm really trying to work on? Because I too try to fill silence or awkwardness by talking more. And I always find myself going, why did I overdo it so much? Why did I just let the silence or the awkwardness sit and pass instead of trying to fill it? Because sometimes I leave a conversation and I've just shared something so personal with someone I just met as a way of trying to make them feel comfortable.
Speaker 2:
[50:55] Yeah, I understand.
Speaker 3:
[50:57] And they don't give anything back to me. And then I leave going, why did I share about that? Why was that the thing that I filled it with? So I see you.
Speaker 2:
[51:06] Thanks. It was so bad.
Speaker 3:
[51:09] I'm physically hot thinking about the panic.
Speaker 2:
[51:11] I'm still embarrassed by it, to be honest.
Speaker 5:
[51:14] We're almost out of time. We gotta do it now, because otherwise I have to add another commercial break, so let's just get to the haygrove.
Speaker 2:
[51:20] Mark's just always trying to make these shorter.
Speaker 5:
[51:22] No.
Speaker 2:
[51:23] Mark, Mark, Mark, Mark.
Speaker 5:
[51:24] You can go as long as you want, but I have to add a third commercial break. That's all I could.
Speaker 2:
[51:27] Nobody wants that, mommy. Okay, go.
Speaker 3:
[51:31] Okay, so Tanya texts me and she goes, Tanya always gets me with a great clickbait. Sometimes it's good, sometimes like today she goes, what did you say to me? You want to know something? You want to know something? And I go, I'd love to.
Speaker 5:
[51:51] Can we guess what it's going to be? Cause it's going to be like, I love you.
Speaker 3:
[51:53] I guess.
Speaker 5:
[51:55] You're my best friend.
Speaker 3:
[51:56] Yes, guess what it is.
Speaker 5:
[51:57] You mean a lot to me. I was thinking about you.
Speaker 3:
[52:00] No.
Speaker 5:
[52:01] Am I warm or no?
Speaker 3:
[52:02] No, but I don't know. Can I tell you something? That's what she says, can I tell you something? I go, of course. She goes, we don't have radio today. So podcast is my first thing. I'm loving it and I go, oh, wow, the dream and I go, thank you so much for sharing that with me. And obviously, I'm being sarcastic.
Speaker 2:
[52:24] Have I asked her?
Speaker 3:
[52:25] Is that sarcastic?
Speaker 2:
[52:28] I thought she would enjoy because I was like relating with her. Like, I was like, oh, I'm like living my life as Becca Tilley today. Like going in for the podcast is my first endeavor.
Speaker 3:
[52:36] I think if you had said, I told her, this is amazing. I can't believe you get to do this every Monday.
Speaker 2:
[52:40] That's kind of where I was going with it, that's not when I got back and I was like, okay.
Speaker 3:
[52:44] Well, that's not really what I got.
Speaker 2:
[52:48] Swing and a miss.
Speaker 3:
[52:49] So anyways, the next, the thing that she texted me, she goes, you want to see something sad, which that can be multiple things for Tanya.
Speaker 2:
[52:56] But then I said sad funny, not sad sad.
Speaker 3:
[52:58] Yeah, she goes sad funny, sad funny. So she sends me her text, a screenshot of her text thread with Camilla Luddington, which how she has her number, I don't even know how that happened. First of all, the two texts above the one she sent me are green, and I'm like, this is not good. And she goes, it's so sad, she starts the text, hi girl. Tanya has never, you are so not a hi girl person to me.
Speaker 2:
[53:30] I am too a hi girl person, hey girl.
Speaker 3:
[53:33] You've never said that to me.
Speaker 2:
[53:34] Well, you're not my girl. How's that?
Speaker 3:
[53:37] She shocked herself by her own words.
Speaker 2:
[53:40] You're not my girl.
Speaker 3:
[53:41] It's just giving, not genuine.
Speaker 2:
[53:44] What do I say? Hey babe, hey lady.
Speaker 5:
[53:48] You don't know her that well.
Speaker 2:
[53:50] Oh, June, you are.
Speaker 5:
[53:52] Hi, Camilla, it's Tanya. How about that?
Speaker 2:
[53:54] She knows it's me.
Speaker 3:
[53:55] Yeah, they apparently had a long conversation before this. So anyways, Tanya goes, hi girl, hope all is well. Wanted to check in on how things were going. Would love to pick your brain.
Speaker 5:
[54:08] Oh, God.
Speaker 3:
[54:11] She doesn't respond. Has she responded yet?
Speaker 5:
[54:16] No. When was this?
Speaker 2:
[54:19] Last week sometime.
Speaker 5:
[54:20] Uh-huh. And it was green?
Speaker 3:
[54:23] No, no, no. This one went through blue. But the first, the ones above that were green. And I was like, eesh. I think it's the hi girl. Do you use that a lot? Hi girl.
Speaker 2:
[54:34] Yeah. Hi girl.
Speaker 5:
[54:35] Why do you want to pick her brain about?
Speaker 3:
[54:37] Just some business things.
Speaker 2:
[54:39] Yeah, for me to know. For you to find out later.
Speaker 3:
[54:42] Your highlighter looks really nice.
Speaker 2:
[54:44] Thank you.
Speaker 3:
[54:44] Yeah, it just really, the sun really hit it.
Speaker 2:
[54:47] But I... 13 year olds be knocking.
Speaker 3:
[54:48] My whole thing about it was that I have never seen or heard you use a hi girl.
Speaker 2:
[54:55] So I don't use hi girl with you because I don't need to. I use hi girl with people that like...
Speaker 3:
[55:03] Like Helena and Jess.
Speaker 2:
[55:06] Helena, please put some respect on her name. But yes, like a Helena or a Jess, like somebody that like, I know, like we're like...
Speaker 4:
[55:16] You're an old friend, you know.
Speaker 2:
[55:17] Yeah, but not like a close friend.
Speaker 3:
[55:19] Have you hi girled them on DMs yet? I do think if you go to the UK, they'll be getting a hi girl DM.
Speaker 2:
[55:26] If I go to the US, the next interaction will be hi girl, 100 percent.
Speaker 4:
[55:31] Hi girl, a selfie of you in front of Big Bang, guess who's in town?
Speaker 3:
[55:36] I do hate when I send a text to someone that's kind of an acquaintance and they're just ghost me. It's so... And I get it because she has kids and a whole career and a life.
Speaker 2:
[55:45] Yeah, you know what?
Speaker 3:
[55:46] So I don't expect it, but it always is just... It would be like quadruple text if you hit her again.
Speaker 2:
[55:54] I have no shame. I literally do not care.
Speaker 3:
[55:57] Well, if it goes through green again, we know what happened.
Speaker 2:
[56:00] Maybe a dot, dot, dot or like a microphone. I can only do that to my friends.
Speaker 3:
[56:05] Following up here.
Speaker 2:
[56:07] Just kindly following up. No, you're not kindly following up. You're aggressively following up.
Speaker 3:
[56:13] Oh, man. I just love you. You're such a gem.
Speaker 2:
[56:16] Thanks.
Speaker 3:
[56:18] All right. Well, we are saying goodbye on this podcast, but we will be back on Thursday.
Speaker 2:
[56:24] Yes, we will.
Speaker 3:
[56:25] With an advice column called Dear Banya. So stay tuned for that. We love you so much.
Speaker 4:
[56:31] We love you.
Speaker 3:
[56:32] Bye.
Speaker 2:
[56:32] Bye.